Did you ever wonder what makes you feel completely whole? Is it family? Is it love of our partners? Is it our diets? Our health? Maybe even politics or our country? How does that feeling of "wholeness" come to us? Is it possible to reach the idea of feeling content, complete...Whole.
There are people who cross our path and within five minutes of shaking their hand, we see confidence. The inflection of their voices, their posture, their eye contact show us confidence and bring on a comfort level that often is unprecedented. A person of "wholeness" will make their presence known without showing any insecurity. They have a focus on the present tense.
Younger people have a sense of loneliness or a lack of "wholeness" when they see their friends getting married or in a significant relationship. How I wish they knew that the "wholeness" comes from within ourselves. We conduct our lives on our terms and work towards feeling a sense of wholeness by doing what we love to do and finding the courage in doing so. Getting married or finding a significant other does not guarantee a sense of "wholeness." We have to feel that complete, content feeling within ourselves first. Then, only then, can we graduate to a relationship that has the potential to last. We need to live our truth first before living anyone else's and believe me...We have to accept the "WHOLE" person. If they want to change on our behalf, they will do it because they do not want to lose you.
Sometimes we are fooled by the aura of "wholeness." Sometimes, it is the environment that perpetuates a false sense of security but we will not discover that until we witness or observe more truth. Sometimes, the "act" is just an "act" to serve an individual's purpose. The bubble bursts. We get fooled. But everyone gets fooled at some point particularly where love is concerned.
Age and experience makes us "whole" if we can put our ego aside and appreciate the lessons we learned. We all would like to believe that the best of intentions have been executed. We embrace kindness, empathy, and that in itself helps us feel "whole." For some it takes longer and that itself could result in a tragic circumstance. Confidence comes with experience too. If we can survive disappointments, we gain confidence through those disappoints. We become stronger and hopefully we become resilient. We also grow in our ability to not only love others but ourselves.
